Unfortunately the rise of feminism in the latter third of last century failed to take into account that women are intrinsically women, and men are intrinsically men.
Instead, the cry for women to share the same societal advantages as men (in a male dominated paradigm!) was mistakenly based in a resentful gripe that women were given a raw deal in having to do the drudge work (having children included!) while men swanned around scot-free making pots of money and enjoying prestige and power.
Most men didn’t know what a dish-cloth looked like according to Greer and her followers.
The crucial element that was missed in this misperception was that society’s values for the last five hundred years or so, up until this time, had been singularly shaped by male values. This meant that the functions, jobs, behaviours and unique territory that women are biologically equipped for, were severely under-valued and are still so to a large extent.
That is why women so readily give their power away in areas that they and their feminine network are best equipped to manage, such as the female stronghold of conception and reproduction.
Denial of our Feminine Intelligence
Examples of the denial by women of their feminine intelligence include the long-term use of the pill as their only contraceptive method even though it interferes with the healthy functioning of their reproductive system, submitting to assisted reproduction without trying natural and harm-free strategies that improve their over-all health and, allowing their babies to be cut out of their bodies because they believe (or are told)that they won’t be able to give birth naturally.
So now I hear many of you are saying…”But we have no choice, we have tried to conceive and nothing has happened”, or, “But how am I going to prevent a pregnancy when I am sexually active but not yet ready for children?” These questions have plagued women since time began. They are still the most important questions that women need to ask, and to answer, because sexuality and reproduction are such crucially important areas in a woman’s life, and have such an enormous impact both personally and in wider arenas.
After all, one baby, perhaps conceived and born after only one love-making episode, will tie a woman’s life up for the next twenty years. This is a long commitment and requires major adjustment in all areas of her life. Not only that, but it also impacts on the future generation, as the quality of her reproductive experience, her pregnancy and birthing, and the crucial years of child-raising imprint on the child born to her, either in a positive or a negative manner. And the echoes of that programming will continue on down the line in woman-to-child succession for the next seven generations.
Women Carry the Onus of Responsibility
Nature has designed it that women and women alone carry the enormous responsibility for this task: that is, the primary health and well-being of future generations of the human race.
That is not to say that males do not participate meaningfully and responsibly in the conception and rearing of a child. But his role is different and he has been designed specifically to fulfill certain aspects that only he, as a male, can.
An example of how clearly the major proportion of responsibility that women carry in this role is recognized by a South American Indian tribe still living today in the traditional way that they have for thousands of years.
Within the ambit of their law, both women and men can sit on the governing council that puts forward proposals to be considered for future legislation. However, only women can participate in the final vote to decide whether a proposal will become law. This is because it is recognized by the tribe, men and women alike, that only women have the capacity to evaluate the effect of a piece of legislation on the next seven generations of children!!
What a far-seeing policy!
To carry the responsibility of being fully a woman we need to learn to love our bodies and their uniquely female functioning. This means getting to know when we cycle, when we ovulate, what changes occur to our emotions and our psyche during a menstrual cycle and how best we can flow with the process rather than trying to deny or ignore it.
We need to recognise that when we have a child we go through dramatic personality changes that are irreversible and that will often test us sorely. Having a child can literally make or break a woman. The better she is informed of these changes the more she will rise through the experience to become a stronger and better functioning human being.
We need to understand that intrinsically as human beings we seek connection and loving rather than isolation and competitiveness.
These are just some of the colours that characterise the world of women – and the dye is cast while we are still in the womb.
For more information on recognising your unique power as a woman, and understanding men and women, please consider my book, The Essence of Woman.